Here, we visualize the switchable friction and wear behavior of ferroelectrics using a nanoscale scanning probe. The down domains have lower friction coefficient than up domains, of which asymmetry is enabled by flexoelectrically coupled polarization in the up and down domains under a sufficiently high contact force. Using this switchable tribology and multi-pass patterning with a domain-based dynamic smart mask, we demonstrate three-dimensional nanostructuring exploiting the asymmetric wear rates of up and down domains, which can, furthermore, be scaled up to technologically relevant (mm-cm) size.